Why Great Dancers Are Exceptional Listeners

Have you ever been with someone who is absolutely oblivious? They don't pick up on subtle social cues - at best it's awkward, and at worst, it can be hurtful.

I have a friend who is the opposite. He's so aware of others, gently ensures that everyone is comfortable, and graces every social circle.

The Art of Attunement: What Social Dancing Teaches Us About Connection

Social dancing builds the vital relationship skill of attunement, noticing others and responding in a way that enhances trust and connection.

To be a good social dancer we learn to focus on others and adjust to accommodate their skill level, comfort level, and preferences - all without saying a word.

How Social Dancing Trains You to Truly Tune In

Maybe you enjoy dancing closely, but the person you're dancing with doesn't. Instead of holding them close in a vise-like grip, you notice the subtle cues that they aren't comfortable, and you create more space.

Perhaps one person you dance with loves when you lead fancy, intricate moves. It's fun and exciting for them. But for another partner - this is stress-inducing because they feel they like they can't keep up and are constantly flailing.

Even if these dancers have the same abilities, they may not have the same desires or confidence, and so taking note of their expressions, you curate your steps so that each partner enjoys their time on the dance floor with you.

As a follower, maybe you enjoy chatting and catching up while dancing, but you notice that your partner keeps leading basics and is struggling to concentrate, so you stop talking and allow them to focus.

These are simple ways that we accommodate others on the dance floor.

It's a way to say - you matter to me, and I want you to feel comfortable.

It's a glorious gift to receive and one that serves you well on the dance floor - and in life.

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